Minimal research has explored the erotic transference-countertransference matrix when both therapist and client identify as the same gender and sexual orientation (Davies, 1994; Sherman, 2002). In an effort to interrogate how therapist and client might be interacting in the intersubjective space, the purpose of this study was to explore the following question: What are the experiences of therapists who are gay men in working with erotic transference-countertransference dynamics with gay men patients of a different race? I conducted a reflexive thematic analysis (RTA)—within the relativist variation of TA—typified by a recursive and iterative process and composed across six phases for seven (n=7) participant interviewees. In answering the research question, the findings show that homoerotic transference and counter transference dynamics serve a function, that racialized transferences and counter transferences were harder to reconcile than those of the erotic, how Whiteness creates impasses in the therapeutic relationship through racialized fetishizations and direct prejudicial attacks, and how the participants navigate a process of using their own anxiety to construct dyadic boundaries, in addition to sublimating the racialized and erotic into more socially acceptable modes of positive counter transferences. This study’s results suggest that social workers engage in advocacy and social justice efforts for those voices that are absent, discouraged, rejected, and even contested, for it is precisely these voices that help generate knowledge that informs our practices, teaching, and research. Key words: erotic counter transference/transference, limit consent, normative unconscious processes, minority stress theory, sexual racism, intersectionality